Adult Stories

Feeling a little lackluster when it comes to turning yourself on? Getting in the mood for sex isn't always as easy as just flicking a switch, but there are plenty of ways to boost your arousal and get back in the game. Let's spice things up!

Marianne Brandon, PhD, a clinical psychologist and co-author of Reclaiming Desire, reminds us that arousal is all about your body’s response to stimulation. For people with vulvas, it's the blood flow to the genitals and vaginal lubrication that indicates arousal, a.k.a. getting wet . But sometimes, external factors like stress or even hormonal shifts can throw a wrench in the works.

Here are 11 hot tips to help reignite your inner flame and get you in the mood:

1. Let Go of Stress
Stress is a major arousal killer . So before turning down the lights, grab a pen and paper . Write down a to-do list you can tackle after you’ve had some “me” time. Taking the mental load off clears your head for a more sensual experience.

2. Connect With Your Body
Your body’s got to feel good before it’s ready to go all in. Deep breathing and muscle relaxation help send energy to your genitals, so give yourself a mini massage or try some outdoor time to center yourself.

3. Get Wet to Get Wet
Transform your bath into a private paradise . Light some candles, add a bubble bath , and play some smooth tunes. For a truly exciting twist, bring in a waterproof vibrator or take advantage of your shower’s detachable head.

4. Queue Up Sexy Visuals & Sounds
Arousal starts in your brain, so add some stimulation through sight and sound! Whether it's watching ethical porn or listening to erotic audio stories on apps like Dipsea, tapping into these senses can heat things up.

5. Crack Open A Steamy Book
Try reading some hot, steamy erotica to get the juices flowing . Books like Behrouz Gets Lucky or The Boss series are full of power-play and passion that might be just the thing to spark your interest.

6. Explore Your Fantasies
Tap into your deepest desires by recalling that unforgettable sexcapade you can’t forget . Fantasizing about past experiences or new, kinky ideas can be enough to ignite your imagination and get your body in the mood.

7. Take Sexy Photos
Channel your inner model and snap some steamy photos of yourself. It boosts your self-esteem and helps you feel empowered. For extra fun, make it a boudoir photo shoot. Later, revisit these images to feel your inner sensuality.

8. Get Moving
Exercise isn’t just good for your health; it boosts blood flow to your genitals too . Whether it's a brisk walk, a spin class , or yoga, working out can trigger sensitivity, tingling, and lubrication, all of which are key to arousal.

9. Do Some Body Exploration
If you’re feeling a little off, start exploring new spots on your body. Gently press areas around your labia or try lightly massaging your collarbones or nipples. This can release pressure and bring your body to life.

10. Touch Yourself
Masturbating isn't just about the end goal—it’s about the journey! Learn how your body responds to touch, and don’t forget to enjoy the process. Touching for pleasure without rushing toward an orgasm can enhance your libido and improve your overall well-being.

11. Buy Yourself a Sex Toy
Treat yourself to a new sex toy . Whether it’s a clitoral vibrator, vibrating panties, or butt plugs, there's a toy out there for every desire. These toys can make self-exploration even more fun and satisfying.

If none of these tricks seem to work, it might be time to speak with a doctor. Hormonal imbalances or underlying health issues could be interfering with your arousal.

Remember, everyone’s libido ebbs and flows, but there’s no harm in discovering new ways to turn yourself on!

For more on these tips, check out these useful resources:

www.igniteyourpleasure.com
www.jnspsychology.com
www.womenshealthmag.com